Tuesday, 16 April 2013

Becoming Invisable!

I'm scared!
 
I'm having an operation on my back in a couple of days and i'm really scared! 
 
I'm so fed up of whining and wingeing about pain and aides and whellchairs and feeling like a burden on people.  My lovely neighbour knocked this morning to see if i was ok and did i need anthing from town, she's in her late 70's!!!  . . . . I used to be a really fun person to be around but pain changes you (or at least me, perhaps that proves that i am a weak person!) and twists how you communicate and feel.
 
Pain is ugly and makes me ugly . . .  it makes me jealous of not having my life and I realised that i was becoming resentful of people that love me and care for me because they are free to come and go as they please, with NO pain!  whereas i am confined to our house, even though it is a lovely house, i find myself moaning about everything, the neighbours are too noisy, the house is too big, i can't do this, i can't do that etc. . .  all because I am unable to do the things that i was able to do before i broke. 
 
DH says he loves me regardless and i truely believe him but it is very difficult to be positive when all i feel are negative emotions which is the opposite of my personality.   I was the girl that was always smiling, i saw amazing before horrible, i wanted good and so i saw good much to my detrement because i just didn't see bad things! innocent and niave..... i'd give anything to be that person now!!!
 
Anyway i went to the doctors who told me i am depressed!  needed a degree for that one huh!? 
 
Now how to become happy again . . . .  .  . .   

3 comments:

  1. I know how you feel ....I hate the fact I have to live with pain every day ....My thoughts are with you and I wish you nothing but good wishes for your back surgery hugssssssssssssss

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  2. You've got to believe that you will be happy again! :) It takes a long time to come out of depression, but once you're on the other side, you'll be amazed at how easy it is to get back on the positivity bandwagon! I think that being depressed changes you for the better in the end, but it takes time to adjust to difficult circumstances- sometimes a lot of time. Our thoughts are with you though!

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  3. I've been reading some if your posts and you make me laugh. I'll be looking out for fresh posts

    Helen

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